"Disease of Success"
What are the life attributes that hinder, block, or kill our progress;
our opportunities; our achievement; or us becoming the best version of ourselves?
Disease. Sickness. Illness. The body is a beautiful thing. You know, when any of these invaders, these parasites who wish to do us harm, get inside our system, we have natural defenses to attack. We strike back. Our white blood cells form like soldiers, like Voltron (hoping some of you remember those days), and proceed to kick major butt in the battle of our health.
However, we are more than just bodies: physical flesh and blood. We are minds. We are souls. We are beings with dreams, goals, aspirations and inspiration. And all of these things determine our course. We believe that if we stay the course, following our dreams, pursuing our goals, we will achieve success. But just like our bodies, the parts of us that control or manage our goals are susceptible to attack.
Unfortunately, our physical, bodily defenses are useless in this battle. We need to be mindful of our surroundings and keenly aware of the forces seeking to damage our psyche and knock us off our course.
These invaders, these viruses and parasites are what I refer to as the “disease of success”. These are the things that keep us from becoming all that we can be and prevent us from growing into the person we want to become. I’ve identified five (5) different forces actively working against us. These are areas I’ve found getting in the way in my own life. I don’t think I can provide every answer for every reader, but maybe as you continue reading, you say, “man, I know exactly what you mean!” And we can then move forward together.
1. Comparing Yourself To Others
Better car. Better house. Better spouse. The list of things that we use to compare our situation to our neighbors, or friends, or family is really endless. Social media like Facebook and Instagram make the comparisons easier and more profound. Thinking someone is doing better than us doesn’t just steal away some joy from our day, it can lead to deep depression.
Like a virus, this reflex to compare gets inside our brains and makes itself at home like a group of squatters in an abandoned house. Don’t leave your mind unattended. Pay attention. If you catch yourself making comparisons, think of the things in your life you are grateful for. Think of the things that bring you joy. Then direct your focus on them. Devote yourself to the positive things that you do have and watch them grow and watch you prosper.
I’m not saying it’s easy but I am saying if we are aware that we’re doing it, we can more effectively stop ourselves. We can be the team of white blood cells. We can defeat that disease.
2. Hanging With The Wrong Crowd
On this journey called life, not everyone we meet, heck not even everyone we are related to is going to be on the same path. They may not even be moving, or even worse, they may be moving backwards.
They’ll try to pull you in their direction. Misery loves company. Struggle loves companionship. We all struggle. But we don’t all have to buy a couch, new TV, kick off our shoes and get comfortable there. You, me, and we have places to go. We have successes to achieve. The people we choose to spend our time with will have a tremendous impact on our ability to reach those goals. Choose wisely.
If you must, don’t be afraid to cut people off, cut people out, and keep it moving. We must do what is best for us. Self love, baby.
3. Negative Self Talk
Stop. Me. If. You. Have. Heard. This. Before. You are you’re own worst critic. I knew it. You didn’t stop me because you know it’s true. We have enough trouble fighting off those external diseases. But at least with those, we can identify them as outside our existence and go to work defeating them. What do we do then when the disease is self-inflicted?
We have to first understand the why. Why are we so hard on ourselves? Why do we treat ourselves so poorly? Why do we let ourselves talk to us in ways we would never allow another to get away with?
We have qualities as people that other people love. We are lovable. Identify those qualities that others do love about us and use them as the foundation to love yourself. Loving ourselves helps us understand that we deserve what we aspire to. We deserve the success we are chasing. We deserve forgiveness for the times we came up short. Once we allow ourselves to be who we are, and love ourselves for it, we can overcome that negative internal dialogue. Let us shine!
4. Diet. What Are You Feeding Your Body?
The food we put in our bodies can provide the nourishment we need for our bodies and our mind. It can also be the poison that kills us daily. Little by little. This is why it’s so important that we choose what we eat wisely.
Have you ever sat down to a big meal, so delicious? Of course you have! The food prepared with love, calling your name. And we eat those meals, enjoying the time and love and company that is sharing the moment with us. Food brings us together, no doubt. It’s a unifier.
But, did you ever notice how you’re not exactly your most energetic after those meals? You aren’t exactly ready to grab success by the horns; unless of course success is a recliner and a nap.
I’m not here to tell you what to eat or what not to eat or not enjoy food. I’m simply telling you to be aware that what we eat affects how we approach the day and could be another obstacle in our way. An obstacle that we have ultimate control over.
In my conversation with sales professionals aross the country, I’ve heard the phrase “motion creates emotion.” If a salesperson feels down or lethargic, often just standing up at their desk and moving is enough to jolt them back into focus.
“Coach V, are you saying don’t ever rest?” No! Not at all. Think of your muscles when you workout. To grow and get stronger, they tear, they, hurt, they’re leaving their comfort zone. To take advantage of the work you put in, rest is necessary. To heal. Your personal and professional development is the same exact way.
Our championship lifestyle, that we hope to instill and live by every day, requires us to rest. Reflect. Recover. But the rest only works after the periods of action. So get active. Be active. STAY ACTIVE!
Thank you for following along all week as we dove deep inside the factors, both internal and external to ourselves, that can block us on our journey to becoming all that we can become and fulfilling all that we are destined to do.
“Life is struggle and struggle is life. Misery is optional.”
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