COMPLACENCY AND SUCCESS – Your Choice to Make
We are all held captive by something such as the past, relationships, vices, fear, anxiety, and subconsciously self-imposed limitations. Many people are imprisoned in a job they think they need to make ends meet, but doesn’t bring them fulfillment or joy.
Approximately 70% of Americans claim to hate their jobs. Living in such misery is not something anyone would suggest enduring. This doesn’t mean you should simplyquit your job. It is vital to think about what you really want and then create an Action Plan and then make sure you are inspired to the point of action to actually take the necessary steps to improve or change your situation. Know that this will involve some work on yourself, which in the realm of Life Champion Coaching we consider self-growth, which often begins with a shift in your mindset.
Be sure to not be persuaded by naysayers! It is vital to not worry about what others say when you tell them about the change that you want to spark in your life and career. The opinions of others will never define you. It is through your own personal choices that determine your life’s next round of consequences and that can create a more desired outcome for you and your family.
The following life lessons, when learned and applied with consistent action, can absolutely release you from what holds you captive and end up leading you to freedom, all through freedom of choice.
Choose to make self-empowering choices that align with your destiny, so you can truly be the master of your fate, the captain of your soul. (For further inspiration, read Invictus The Inconquerable, by William Ernest Henley).
LIFE LESSON ONE – Complacency is a Disempowering Choice
Maybe it’s an ironic choice, but satisfaction is easier than production. As humanitarian Benjamin E. Mays said, “The tragedy of life is often not in our failure, but rather in our complacency; not in our doing too much, but rather in our doing too little; not in our living above our ability, but rather in our living below our capacities.”
It is a surprise to me that people would rather remain in their downward spiral, continuing to be held captive by self-doubt and excuses, rather than reaching to find the happiness they deserve. You deserve to experience fulfillment and happiness.
Everyone has potential, yet it seems that not that many people truly succeed. The difference is a matter of choice. The choices that you and I make, always have consequences. These can be positive or negative. It is vital to take personal responsibility for our choices as it is our individual decisions alone that shape our future.
To succeed, it takes more than skill or talent, it requires desire, true commitment and initiative. It is past choices that has led us to where we are today and created who we are at this point of our lives.
It is the choices we will make today that will shape our lives tomorrow. William Jennings Bryan stated, “Destiny is not a matter of chance; it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.”
For my success, it has been the combination of my choices and my decision to take the risk to leave my comfort zone that has ended up paying huge dividends for me in my personal life and professional career.
It takes courage to make life-changing choices. Some of these courageous choices for me include going back to college as a 23 year old college sophomore to fulfill my dream to play college football; leaving all that was familiar to me and moving to Boise Idaho to become a graduate assistant; proposing to my college sweetheart, Martha; and leaving my career as a college football coach to become a professional keynote speaker.
Determining to take even bigger risks to continue to create the life I wanted for me and my family included choices such as: moving from Boise to Elk Grove CA, just south of Sacramento; founding a community nonprofit called Invictus Foundation that integrates sports and youth passion platforms to teach empowering life-lessons and cores values preparing youth to succeed in their lives; deciding to write a book called Life Champion: Life Lessons That Yield Championship Results, published and released in July, 2015.
These personal choices have led to the realization of one of my biggest dreams, the founding of the Life Champion Conference, to inspire, train, teach and coach audiences around the world to prepare them to achieve their goals, dreams, hopes and aspirations.
My past choices have created a life-transforming platform through my Business and Self-Development Conference where the focus is Purpose, Motivation, Perseverance, and Success, to actualize the calling of my purpose. These very principles are what have driven me towards achieving my individual success.
Some of the most important elements for you to start moving towards your own personal success include: What do you believe in (a belief in something greater than yourself that will consistently inspire you to take empowering action); making family an absolute priority; being aware of who you surround yourself with (determining your innermost circle of people you trust and who believe in you and support you); gaining true clarity for your goals; to become aware of and answer your life’s purpose or calling; how much money you want to make; how you will give back in a monetary sense; daring to take a risk and go for your dreams.
Other components involve figuring out: what you want your legacy to be; attracting the special person you choose as your spouse (in my mind this is the most important choice in adult life); committing to be a champion in learning and constantly pursuing and advancing in knowledge; consistently following a healthy diet and exercising daily; having the awareness and maintaining the self-discipline it takes to avoid your vices; and finally to love and respect yourself unconditionally.
It is essential to have heightened levels of awareness and to take responsibility for whether or not your choices are leading you to create; opportunity, prosperity, joy, peace, happiness, spiritual fulfillment and love.
You will not know what the outcome of every choice is, however when the outcomes is not what you want, make a different choice.
Changing your mind to make a different choice that will take you closer to securing your success and your ultimate freedom is a part of the process.
(By the way, it is vital that you write down with clarity these elements. Putting pen to paper changes fleeting thoughts to something real. This is a game changer).
LIFE LESSON TWO – Live Invictus
Success is found through the challenges of adversity. I call it unavoidable suffering as there is always a risk involved and a price to pay.
You must understand it will always be necessary to overcome challenges in order to break free from the rut of contentment. Transformation will never come from within your comfort zone, and opportunity does not present itself to those who are not seeking it.
Matthew 7:7 (NIV) says, “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.”
It is better to try and fail than to wonder what could have been. Through my personal experience, I’ve found that having faith leads to certainty. It’s not “if“, it’s “when”.
The New Living translation of this Matthew 7:7 verse is, “Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you.” In other words, when you keep going, you will arrive at your desired destination. There are only two ways to fail. Either don’t start, or quit.
Do not ever allow external pressures to lead you to believe that you are incapable of change. Free yourself from the opinions and negative thoughts of others as these only serve to spread the disease of self-doubt.
One of the world’s greatest activists and humanitarians, Nelson Mandela, said, “It always seems impossible until it’s done.”
Rather than remaining complacent under the oppressive rule of South Africa, he took a huge risk and stood up for his beliefs and empowered his people to pursue the freedom that was rightfully theirs. He did not concede to the naysayer’s demands, run from the constant stream of threats, or abandon any aspect of the conflict that would rise from the potential uprising and even revolution that could result from his taking a stand in the face of immense adversity and prejudice.
For an astonishing twenty-seven years, Nelson Mandela was imprisoned, held captive because of his unwavering commitment to his cause, because he would not cave to the opposing beliefs of his “captors”.
After his release from prison, Mandela became the first democratically elected President of the same nation that had held him captive.
It would have been far easier to submit to the apartheid in South Africa, however Nelson Mandela had absolute belief that the need for freedom was far greater than the danger of death and even a lifetime of captivity. Because of this unwavering faith, Mandela kept going until he got to his destination.
Note: While in Robben Island prison, Mandela frequently read the following poem, Invictus, by William Ernest Henley to gain the courage to choose commitment to the cause;
Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find me, unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
Believe and Commit
Do the work to figure out with definite clarity what you want. Believe in yourself and in what it is you want to create for yourself and your family. Commit to take action, face your life’s challenges and do the work to change, get better and make progress. Do whatever it takes to live and experience life the way you want it to be. Don’t be complacent.
I’m saying break the rules, break your rules and do whatever it takes. I’m not saying break the law. Short-cuts like breaking the law will only serve to disempower you and bring true negativity into your life, often in an irreversible form.
What I am talking about not doing what everyone else is doing, and that you need to break the rules of complacency. In other words, make choices that matter versus sitting there like a bump on a log and simply wishing things were different. Doing whatever it takes and doing the work is how one achieves, progresses, and succeeds.
One of the world’s most inspirational motivators, Jim Rohn said, “Don’t wish things were easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.”
Well said, Jim Rohn! Commit to improving yourself, to getting better, to developing the skills you need, to staying the course and to gaining the invaluable wisdom that only experience can bring.
Like Nelson Mandela’s mindset after being imprisoned for 27 years, the word Invictus means having absolute faith, being unconquerable, unsubdued, invincible, and being 100% committed.
Be determined to overcome any and all obstacles at any cost. Live life making the hard choices, the ones that will lead to real self-growth. When you choose to do whatever it takes, you will feel no regret.
Never settle for less than your best. Freedom isn’t free, and nothing worth having, comes easy. Know, believe, that you deserve to fully experience your definition of success.
COMPLACENCY AND SUCCESS – A Final Thought
As the Invictus poem states, you are the master of your fate, you are the captain of your soul. Freedom and success afford many things, but you cannot escape from the responsibility it takes to make the choices, challenging choices it takes to create this very freedom and success.
Many people say that they will do anything for success, until they realize the totality of 100% commitment required to achieve such success. No one has ever said that success, prosperity, joy, peace, happiness, spiritual fulfillment or love were easy.
Anyone who has experienced true success will tell you that it is absolutely worth every ounce of effort, every sacrifice, and every compromise. For when that is done they are living with true freedom.
Your success depends on challenging yourself to make the appropriate and necessary choices, the tough ones, to live the life you’ve always wanted.
Now choose to go live your life the way you want! Choose to be a Life Champion.
Release your Champion,