Personal Empowerment vol. 5: “Championship Lessons For A Winning Life”

by vchamp |Apr 18, 2018 | 0 Comments | personal development

"Championship Lessons "

Whether we win or lose, we must always find the lessons to learn and apply as we move forward.

1. Motivation: More Than a Noun

When you wake in the morning, every morning, what drives you? In current discussion this is called your “why.” The reason you put on that suit, drink that extra cup of coffee, bang out that extra rep at the gym, or whatever else it is you do. Why you do it will ultimately control how long you do it and the enjoyment you get out of it.

For some people it is their families; the people who depend on them. For others it is to make a lasting difference or legacy in the world. Whatever that “why” is, it will keep the fire burning.

No matter who you are reading this, following our video series, and looking for that champion life, you are at one of these positions along the journey:

  1. Haven’t yet identified your “why”.
  2. Have identified your “why” and are beginning to pursue your goals with that driving you.
  3. Have achieved great success through your “why” and look forward every day to achieving even more.

The thing is, no matter which of the three positions you would say you currently occupy, you have to keep moving.

If you’re stuck at #1, reach out to your trusted network with questions about what they see as your interests and passions. At the same time, reach into your soul. Dig deep and find what energizes you.

If you’re at #2, congratulations! You’re that much closer to the life you want. Stay the course. Set short term goals and knock them down regularly. In the NBA they say a lot of guys need to see that first shot go down. Mentally watching the ball go through the hoop sets the tone. It builds confidence and just acts like a snow ball picking up momentum rolling down the hill.

Those little, regular goals act the same way.

For those already at #3, just be mindful of the complacency that can set in. It’s natural. But, we can fight it. We must fight it. It’s great to be a champion once. Even greater to be a champion forever.

2. Whining Gets You Nowhere

I’ve mentioned before how great of a parallel sports is to life itself. The concept that whining gets you nowhere is just another such way that we see a tremendous overlap.

Turn on the TV any given week for a football game, or evening for a basketball game, baseball game, you get the picture. And I promise you that you will see players and/or coaches arguing with the officials. Now, in my experience as a player and a coach, I have never once experienced an argument with one of these referees where they said, “you know, that’s a good point. I was wrong. Call reversed.” Of course, in many sports now they do offer instant replay, and calls get overturned. Keep in mind, this process is only allowed for a select few circumstances and it requires a specific procedure and the standard is “uphold the call on the field BUT FOR irrefutable evidence.” This means that, what, 90% of all calls we think are bad never get turned into our favor? So, what does the whining and complaining get you?

And here’s something else to consider. Even if you think, “nah, Coach V, I’m going to blame others,” that’s certainly your right but keeping this on the football field, after a bad call against you, as a coach you still have to call plays, players still have to execute. You can’t “blame your way down the field.” If you felt so aggrieved that you just had to keep dwelling on it, you’re going literally get multiple delay of game penalties and end up shooting yourself in the head (not just the foot). So, don’t let that happen.

Bad things happen. Uncontrollable things happen. Whether I’m a great coach, a great motivator or anything else you turn to me for, I can’t keep those things from happening to you. You can’t do it for yourself. What we can do is push through regardless. What we can do is learn the lesson regardless. What we can do is keep trying to improve. 

That’s what I’m here to help with. That’s what I’m here to help you recognize. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we respond.

Don’t respond by whining and placing blame. Respond with strength, dignity and the understanding that whatever adversity presents itself today can be overcome. You have that power.

3. Winning Never Gets Old

No matter how many gurus and coaches and motivators come along and reframe our thinking of losing, no matter how they redefine it for us, I promise you, it never gets fun.

You can be in sales and “go for the no.” I get it. Rejection and loss are difficult pills to swallow. By approaching that rejection with enthusiasm we can trick our brain in a given moment to not shut down. If that keeps you pushing toward the one “yes” then by all means, whatever you have to do. Do it.

Just understand, the reason you have to essentially trick your brain or learn to approach the loss that way is because losing SUCKS! It just does. It’s also inevitable. We’re all going to lose at something. How we respond to the loss is what makes us champions. How do you respond?

When you ultimately win, do you relish in the great feeling and just let the enjoyment wash over you? Nothing wrong with pouring a little champagne in the locker room or dumping the gatorade on the coach in the immediate aftermath of the win. It feels GREAT!

Just don’t let it go to your head. Don’t stay popping champagne 3 months later. There’s another season headed your way, another obstacle to be ready for. Be ready. Enjoy the win. But be ready.

4. Family [Dys]Function

If ever you doubt the veracity of some concepts of how to live your life, one way to tell if you’re on the right track, find the ideas that are consistent from culture to culture. If there’s a saying in Hebrew, Spanish, Russian, English, Tongan, whatever, espousing the same idea… believe it!

Thousands of miles of ocean and land separate people and if they understand the same truths, yeah, you can probably accept them as standards to follow.

One such standard is airing of family dirty laundry. There quite literally is a phrase or saying for it all across the world. Because we all understand, deep down, we shouldn’t do it.

Keep problems in house, keep drama for the movie screen, and keep your life moving. Even if you find people willing to engage your dysfunction, they are likely even more dysfunctional and you can what, dysfunction together? Where is that leading you? What are you accomplishing in your life in that space? N-O-T-H-I-N-G!

Handle family business as a family and go out into the world with your head high and your feet on the ground. 

5. Aloha Means Hello [and Goodbye]

For those who have been following along this past month, you’ve already read my thoughts about sacrifice and in economic theory the concept is “opportunity cost”. Because our time and resources are finite, we choose what we want directly, and by doing so, choose what we don’t want indirectly. 

Sometimes it’s obvious. To get more muscle tone we must sacrifice our body fat. We put in work at the gym and clean up our diet. That sacrifice is obvious. 

What may not be as obvious is that to get what we want in life, material gains or just quality in terms of happiness, we might have to sacrifice some people, long term relationships to get there. 

We talked on Monday about motivation and the sheer joy we feel around motivated people. Where do unmotivated people fit in then? If they’re relatives, we can minimize our interaction somewhat. Maybe we limit our time spent with them to just big family functions and holidays. If their lack of motivation is benign, we can maneuver around them and keep moving. Close friends as well. We can decide the extent to which we cut their time in our lives down.

What we also must be aware of are the people who are motivated, but in the wrong direction. If you were training wind sprints, you might tie a little sled to your waist and put some weights on it to add resistance. And that is some kind of resistance, no doubt. However, consider tying that same rope or bungee cord to another sprinter and have them run in the opposite direction. If their pull is stronger than yours, not only are you not getting closer to your destination, you’re being pulled completely off course.

To those folks, we must say aloha. Goodbye.

To the ones here to cultivate a championship life for themselves and have shown to be positively motivated in their own lives and working in unison with us… oh man, to them we SCREAM aloha. Hello!

Thank you for following along all week as we shared some of the important life lessons to reaching our championship potential. Be sure to tune in every day for videos and other words of encouragement as we look to get the most out of this thing called life! 

“Life is struggle and struggle is life. Misery is optional.”

"What I believe, will be!

Peace."

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Personal Empowerment vol. 4 “Value: Our Worth or Usefulness”

by vchamp |Apr 13, 2018 | 0 Comments | personal development

"Value"

Things we consider to be of high value are worth the cost of our time and/or money. It’s not enough to pursue our personal things of value, we must also work to provide value for the people around us.

Value. Five letters but a whole lot of meaning. Is it the worth of the success we are chasing? Is it the character that we are and keep working on that allows people around us to count on us? Is it the knowledge and experience we have to get a job done for an employer? Is it the development of spirit and faith that makes us a positive influence on our communities?

YES! All of it. The law of attraction informs us that whatever we spend our time focusing on is what we will attract into our lives. This could be positive or negative. If we agree that positivity is more aspirational and therefore more valuable, then we must be conscious of the positivity we are exuding and attracting. 

When we attract that for ourselves, we become more valuable resources for our loved ones and community as a whole. We also put our mindset in the right place to continue going after the achievements and life that we want. Be value, be a champion! 

This entire week we’ll be looking at different components of value and how to implement high value practices in our lives. Join me!

1. Give More & Get More Value

I’ve read different people, thought leaders, professionals… experts. They all seem to say in some form or another that you, and me, we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. If this is true, and I tend to think it is, then we must appreciate and respect the value that those five people bring to us and the value in turn that we can offer them.

The more value we add to the people around us, the more we help them grow. The more they grow the more value they can return to us. Value for value. 

Proverbs 27:17 tells us that iron sharpens iron and we, as people, sharpen each other. Add value. Get value. Add more. And the cycle continues.

2. Value Costs Full Price

My wife loves a sale. She searches high and low for the best price on all kinds of products we need as a family. Her diligence is just one of many reasons I love her so much. Unfortunately, there’s no discount when it comes to the dreams, goals, and ambitions that we pursue. We don’t add those to our “cart”, enter a coupon code and wait for the world we want.

Sorry.

Instead, we understand the things in life worth having, the dreams worth pursuing are of high value to us. Things with high value come with a high price tag. That’s just the way it works.

Economics is essentially the study of choices people make with the resources they have for other resources they want. There’s an exchange. And whenever that exchange is made, the opportunity to obtain something else is lost. That’s opportunity cost.

The same works for us as people in our relationships and our pursuits. As soon as we identify what is most valuable to us, we pour our heart and soul into cultivating those things. However, in doing so we do lose out on the chance for other things. Opportunity cost.

The price for what we believe is valuable is high. There’s no getting around it. But if we are aware going in, we can prepare ourselves and push through.

 

3. Add Value To Your Surroundings

A rising tide lifts all boats. And luckily for us, we are in control of the tide we create. In this case value. And the great thing is that as we show our worth, prove to others we are the kind of people they can rely on, we not only help them directly but become the people they will remember and be open to working with and helping when the time comes for that.

Everything in life ebbs and flows. There are ups and downs. Trials and triumphs. But there is never a time when we are not in a position to add value. There is never a time when we cannot rise to meet the challenges placed upon us by the people depending on us every day. And when we channel our energy toward community, toward kindness and toward gratitude (the things that are truly valuable) the world has a funny way of rewarding us in kind.

Be the rising tide for your community. Watch as every boat sets sail. And revel in role you play in cultivating that for others.

4. Learning About Others

It’s a great, big world out there. 7 billion people and hundreds of cultures. Think of all the experiences, the stories and the traditions that have shaped so many communities and individuals. When we talk about value, would we say it’s more valuable to learn or to remain in the dark? I think we all would answer that very quickly: learning increases value. 

If that is true, then traveling and being exposed to all those unique cultures will do nothing but add value to our lives directly and then add to the value we offer in service of others. There’s no downside to spreading your wings and flying. Or at the very least, sitting in a chair on a plane and letting the pilot do the flying. Either way, the world, the people, and the value await us!

 

5. Work To Get Better

“No one ever said it would be easy, just that it would be worth it.”

Think of the achievement you are after as an Olympic high jumper who must clear a bar set a certain height. He breathes. He looks at the target bar and landing spot. He shakes his hands and does a few jumps to calm the nerves. And it’s on. He approaches, leaps, turns, lays out and just as he clears the bar, his leg hits it and it falls. He fails. He goes home. He trains again.

At the next competition, the judges come to him and say, “we heard you missed this height before, we’re going to lower the bar for you.” Would say thank you for lowering the bar and making this easy for me? Or would he be offended, say forget you people, put that bar back at the right height and go after it again?

I think anyone with any level of competitiveness and pride in our effort would find the value in conquering the more difficult height. Well, our own personal value works the same way. If we identify things of value for us and our first, second or third attempts fall short, we must avoid the appeal of re-targeting our sights on something easier. Instead, we must concentrate on getting better. Improvement from within is what will ultimately get us to our value. Keep working. Keep training. Get better so you can get better.

Thank you for following along all week as we dove deep inside the ways we pursue the things in life we find most valuable but also how we can work to become people of value for those around us.

“Life is struggle and struggle is life. Misery is optional.”

"What I believe, will be!

Peace."

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Personal Empowerment vol. 3 “Change and Transformation”

by vchamp |Apr 5, 2018 | 0 Comments | personal development

"Change Would Do You Good"

Not just the title of a hit song in the 90’s, change can be just the thing we need in our lives. Not ALL change is good, however. What can we do to help make sure change is in our favor?

1. We Must Change

We’re all here to get the most out of our time. What that means for me or you or whomever else is up to our individual passions and pursuits. So those things are entirely our own. Unique.

What is not unique, what we all share in fact is that in order to get where we want to go, we must change some thing (or many things) about where we currently are.

It might be our physical location, where we live, where we work, where we put our attention. It could be a change in the amount of focus we put on any given thing. But the bottomline is, we must change!

“to get something you’ve never had, you must do something you’ve never done.”

 

2. Start Over From The Beginning

Every change that we hope to make in our lives comes with a learning experience. If you really strip it all down, life itself is just a series of experiences that teaches us something in that moment that hopefully we can use when we recognize similar circumstances later on. We would like for all experiences to be more pleasure than pain, but we can’t ensure that.

What we can ensure is that when we succeed the first time out, we test the process again, and again. Maybe it was fluke. Doing something once doesn’t mean we’ve figured out how to repeat it. We must learn in these moments of victory, or we may never taste them again.

We can also ensure that when we fail, we don’t give up. We learn from what went wrong and if it really matters, we come back and take another shot at it. Win or lose, we’re learning. Or at least we should be.

Sometimes we can get far enough down the road that we lose sight of where we came from and lose sight of where we really are on the journey. The journey will always take us to places we’ve never been before. In those moments, it is OK, yes, I’m telling you it is ok to find a familiar place, a comfort zone, where we can recalibrate and go back after it once again. 

Think about the mountain climbers scaling Mt. Everest. They don’t just start from the bottom and end up at the top in one attempt. They gradually work up to an elevation level then drop back down. They acclimate. They go farther the next day. They acclimate. They finally make their peak assent from a position they’ve built up to.

Making change happen in your life can sometimes require the same process. It is a process. One step back, two steps forward. One step back, 100 steps forward. Recognize when the steps back are necessary for you. 

3. Put In Constant Work

When it comes to bringing about change we can turn to two (very different) means: revolutionary and evolutionary. 

Revolutionary change is sudden. It’s noticeable. On a grand, macro level, it is violent. For our personal lives it may be suddenly deciding to leave a job. Relocating to a new city without a plan. Quitting smoking, or some other vice, cold turkey. There are times when we may really feel a shake up of this magnitude is needed. A jolt. That’s not really what I’m talking about this week.

Evolutionary change (in contrast to revolutionary) is procedural, methodical, and deliberate. It often goes unnoticed while the process is underway but when you take a moment to pause and reflect you see just how far you’ve come. 

Maybe it’s starting a new fitness routine. We may have our eye on a promotion and we work out the steps to earn the necessary recognition. We want to upgrade our house, so we start saving. Saving money and withdrawing from the bank at the right time: evolution. Walking into the bank and withdrawing as part of a robbery scheme: revolution. 

The reason I’m more focused on the evolutionary change is that we have control of this process. We identify where we want to see change and we have the power to start acting, start changing. Self-empowerment. That’s the name of this whole series for a reason: we are powerful whether we know it or not. Sometimes we just need to be reminded. This is your reminder!

Make consistent, gradual, incremental changes. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Before you know it, you’ve devoured the whole thing. Change. 

4. Don't Be Scared To U-Turn

Not every road we travel will lead to the desired destination. We know that. If you didn’t know that prior to this, well, you know it now. At the same time, not every obstacle is a reason to turn around. If you remember our article last week, we talked about the importance of a faith system. Here, we must trust in ourselves that we know the difference between a temporary obstacle to push through and something more permanent, more detrimental. 

As I’m sure you noticed, this is closely related to #2 in this series. Let me appeal to an analogy we may all (at least the husbands out there) be familiar with. You’re on a trip, driving along the highway. You have your significant other riding shotgun, maybe you’re holding hands and just feeling good. Like Smokey Robinson says so soulfully, “cruisin’ was made for us.” You’re kind of lost in the moment and BAM! you miss the exit.

You have (3) options as I see it: 1) you swerve late and cut across traffic, endangering everyone (this might be revolutionary change); 2) you keep going and say, “let’s just ride till the wheels fall off.” Picture Kramer in Seinfeld when test driving a car until it completely runs out of gas. Just like the two crazy men in that scenario, you may find some excitement at first – going with no plan. However, reality will eventually hit and the air will be let out of that balloon. It’s not a viable solution; 3) you calmly proceed to the next exit, get off the freeway, turn around and head back to where you should have exited. 

While choosing #3 isn’t the most exciting of the options, it will get you back on track in the most manageable way. And no one’s life will be threatened. Make the u-turn!

5. Focus On Yourself

Life, the universe, our spirit, these are wondrous things with limitless qualities. The imagination, the hope, the dreams of people are infinite. However, the things we actually have control over and can change are not infinite. Not by a long shot.

Shall we run down the list of the things we do have control over changing? Our choices. Our reactions to other people’s choices. Our beliefs. Our learning. Our attention. And there really isn’t much more we can say with any confidence we control; that we can change.

If we understand that we can’t change other people’s actions, choices, attention, reactions then we should understand taking on that responsibility will only lead to disappointment. So, really, truly, understand, you can’t make anyone do anything you want. You can’t make other people change the things you want changed.

To borrow from my good friend Gandhi, “be the change.”  You. Focus on you. Leave the rest to the rest. Handle you.

Thank you for following along all week as we looked at change and transformation. We must change. We must understand what things we can and can’t change. We must recognize the process that creates change. Don’t rush it! 

“Life is struggle and struggle is life. Misery is optional.”

"What I believe, will be!

Peace."

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Personal Empowerment vol. 2 “Choices”

by vchamp |Mar 29, 2018 | 0 Comments | personal development

"Decisions Determine Destiny"

Just how powerful are we? What if I told you, WE are the architects of our lives? Immensely powerful. Choices.

The course of our lives is chartered by the choices we make. That’s it. We make choices, we face outcomes, we make more choices.

Of course we all want the outcomes of our choices to be in line with our goals, dreams, and visions of what our lives are meant to be. But, we also know, we don’t always get the outcomes we want. How can we better equip ourselves for the next choice? How can we better anticipate those outcomes and prepare to respond accordingly? How can we learn to take what appear to be undesirable outcomes and use them as tools to sharpen us? 

All of this and more as this week we look at the power we have through the choices we make. 

1. Choose A Faith System

Every single one of us believes in something. Our belief system doesn’t have to be religious, or even spiritual in nature. It could be in the science behind the world we experience. It might be the belief in the love of those closest to us. In fact it could be a combination of many things. The bottom line is that as we are faced with choices to make, ultimately, our value system and what we believe in will drive the direction we go.

I’ve certainly found my place, my center of balance, through scripture. As I am faced with those dilemmas:  choices that appear to have to no good option, I have relied upon my faith in the Lord, and the lessons he so lovingly gave us through his life. To this point, this faith has served my family and I well and I know will continue to do so.

There’s little more personal to us as individuals than our faith system and that which speaks to our souls. Take some time, really get acquainted with your soul and what calls to you. Then run with it, man! Run with the wind behind you and the world ahead. With that foundation, you can’t choose wrong!

2. Don't Choose Entitlement

If we believe that we do make choices and the choices we make are within our control, then we must be accountable for the outcomes of those choices.

We may feel disadvantaged or that our situation is particularly unfair. I get that. We don’t all come from the same starting point. Sometimes folks use this analogy of running a 100 meter race with some people born 50 meters down the track. That sucks! 

You know what sucks even worse? When the gun fires and the race begins, just standing there or walking off the track. Not participating because “it isn’t fair.” That is our choice. That is where entitlement will get you.

Life isn’t about the most advantaged people probably going to win the race and therefore none of the rest of us should even bother running. No! The championship life is about taking what you have in the place where you are – WHEREVER YOU ARE – and taking control of the next choice. It is an affirmation that you, me, and we EARN what we get. No one is going to look out for me, or you, for us. We must choose accordingly. 

3. Choose To Be Your Best

All we can do is all we can do. As individuals that will certainly manifest itself differently based on god-given talent, the goals we set, and the environment in which we live. For example, I may never be Lebron James on the basketball court. But if I’m on the court playing, I can choose to put out my very best effort. And no one, not even Lebron himself, can stop me from doing that – even if I never score a basket.

Even if we don’t close the deal in our business, even if we don’t get whatever result we were working for, NOTHING in this world can prevent us from choosing to give our best in that moment in time. Only WE as individuals have the power to do it. We choose to give something less than our best. We live with that choice. 

Only we know what our best is. No one can determine that for us. And when we don’t give our best, it is we who feel guilty; we who carry the burden of “what could have been?” We feel that shame.

When we do give our best, win, lose, or draw, we hold our heads high and learn the lessons. We dust ourselves off and we choose to do our best all over again.

4. Make The Choice (Don't Be Indecisive)

Indecision is usually driven by fear. Fear of making the wrong choice. But fear is paralyzing. If life is a journey, then it requires we keep moving. Paralysis, then, is antithetical to our getting the most out of the life we are given. Champions we will never become. 

We all have those moments of feeling uncertain. The doubt creeps in and we question everything, mostly ourselves. This is when we must recall our faith system. The trust we have in that foundation will provide the metaphorical springboard from which we will bounce back. We will recognize our power in choosing and our power to correct should we choose wrong.

Sometimes we choose wrong. Sometimes we make mistakes. But mistakes are only losses if we fail to learn from them. We apply whatever we learn to the next choice. We get better. We proceed. We progress. But this is only made possible by us not allowing indecision to rule. Be brave. Be bold. Be ready to adapt. But above all, be decisive!

5. Choose A Positive Attitude

“Life is 10% what happnes to us and 90% how we respond.” Yes, it’s become a cliché in self-help circles but as with all clichés, they gain their popularity because we recognize the truth carried within the statement.

We can’t control everything, we know that. I would never suggest otherwise. What I will tell you is the bad attitude we CHOOSE (and yes our attitude is a choice) will hurt us, hurt the people around us, and ultimately prevent us from becoming all that we were meant to become.

I recently read something that described anger as “holding a hot coal with the intention of someone else getting burned.” I like that. But I like it with regard to all our negative attitudes. Anger. Jealousy. Self pity. Grudges. Hatred. All of these burden us. All of these, like anchors around our necks, pull us down and may even drown us. 

No matter what that 10% of life that we can’t control is; no matter what those things are that happen to us; we must focus on the things we are grateful for: health and wealth. And I don’t simply mean financial wealth. I mean a wealth of love, of spirit, of hope, and of audacity. 

Find the audacity to love fearlessly, to practice your faith fearlessly, to reject entitlement fearlessly, to be your best fearlessly, and to respond to the outcomes, in your favor or against you, with fearless positivity.

Choices. We have the power. 

Thank you for following along all week as we dove deep inside the power we each have to take control of our lives and determine our destiny!

“Life is struggle and struggle is life. Misery is optional.”

"What I believe, will be!

Peace."

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Personal Empowerment vol. 1 “Disease of Success”

by vchamp |Mar 22, 2018 | 7 Comments | personal development

"Disease of Success"

What are the life attributes that hinder, block, or kill our progress;
our opportunities; our achievement; or us becoming the best version of ourselves?

Disease. Sickness. Illness. The body is a beautiful thing. You know, when any of these invaders, these parasites who wish to do us harm, get inside our system, we have natural defenses to attack. We strike back. Our white blood cells form like soldiers, like Voltron (hoping some of you remember those days), and proceed to kick major butt in the battle of our health.

However, we are more than just bodies: physical flesh and blood. We are minds. We are souls. We are beings with dreams, goals, aspirations and inspiration. And all of these things determine our course. We believe that if we stay the course, following our dreams, pursuing our goals, we will achieve success. But just like our bodies, the parts of us that control or manage our goals are susceptible to attack.

Unfortunately, our physical, bodily defenses are useless in this battle. We need to be mindful of our surroundings and keenly aware of the forces seeking to damage our psyche and knock us off our course.

These invaders, these viruses and parasites are what I refer to as the “disease of success”. These are the things that keep us from becoming all that we can be and prevent us from growing into the person we want to become. I’ve identified five (5) different forces actively working against us. These are areas I’ve found getting in the way in my own life. I don’t think I can provide every answer for every reader, but maybe as you continue reading, you say, “man, I know exactly what you mean!” And we can then move forward together.

1. Comparing Yourself To Others

Better car. Better house. Better spouse. The list of things that we use to compare our situation to our neighbors, or friends, or family is really endless. Social media like Facebook and Instagram make the comparisons easier and more profound. Thinking someone is doing better than us doesn’t just steal away some joy from our day, it can lead to deep depression.

Like a virus, this reflex to compare gets inside our brains and makes itself at home like a group of squatters in an abandoned house. Don’t leave your mind unattended. Pay attention. If you catch yourself making comparisons, think of the things in your life you are grateful for. Think of the things that bring you joy. Then direct your focus on them. Devote yourself to the positive things that you do have and watch them grow and watch you prosper.

I’m not saying it’s easy but I am saying if we are aware that we’re doing it, we can more effectively stop ourselves. We can be the team of white blood cells. We can defeat that disease.

2. Hanging With The Wrong Crowd

On this journey called life, not everyone we meet, heck not even everyone we are related to is going to be on the same path. They may not even be moving, or even worse, they may be moving backwards. 

They’ll try to pull you in their direction. Misery loves company. Struggle loves companionship. We all struggle. But we don’t all have to buy a couch, new TV, kick off our shoes and get comfortable there. You, me, and we have places to go. We have successes to achieve. The people we choose to spend our time with will have a tremendous impact on our ability to reach those goals. Choose wisely.

If you must, don’t be afraid to cut people off, cut people out, and keep it moving. We must do what is best for us. Self love, baby.

3. Negative Self Talk

Stop. Me. If. You. Have. Heard. This. Before. You are you’re own worst critic. I knew it. You didn’t stop me because you know it’s true. We have enough trouble fighting off those external diseases. But at least with those, we can identify them as outside our existence and go to work defeating them. What do we do then when the disease is self-inflicted?

We have to first understand the why. Why are we so hard on ourselves? Why do we treat ourselves so poorly? Why do we let ourselves talk to us in ways we would never allow another to get away with?

We have qualities as people that other people love. We are lovable. Identify those qualities that others do love about us and use them as the foundation to love yourself. Loving ourselves helps us understand that we deserve what we aspire to. We deserve the success we are chasing. We deserve forgiveness for the times we came up short. Once we allow ourselves to be who we are, and love ourselves for it, we can overcome that negative internal dialogue. Let us shine!

4. Diet. What Are You Feeding Your Body?

The food we put in our bodies can provide the nourishment we need for our bodies and our mind. It can also be the poison that kills us daily. Little by little. This is why it’s so important that we choose what we eat wisely. 

Have you ever sat down to a big meal, so delicious? Of course you have! The food prepared with love, calling your name. And we eat those meals, enjoying the time and love and company that is sharing the moment with us. Food brings us together, no doubt. It’s a unifier. 

But, did you ever notice how you’re not exactly your most energetic after those meals? You aren’t exactly ready to grab success by the horns; unless of course success is a recliner and a nap. 

I’m not here to tell you what to eat or what not to eat or not enjoy food. I’m simply telling you to be aware that what we eat affects how we approach the day and could be another obstacle in our way. An obstacle that we have ultimate control over.

5. Inactivity

In my conversation with sales professionals aross the country, I’ve heard the phrase “motion creates emotion.” If a salesperson feels down or lethargic, often just standing up at their desk and moving is enough to jolt them back into focus. 

“Coach V, are you saying don’t ever rest?” No! Not at all. Think of your muscles when you workout. To grow and get stronger, they tear, they, hurt, they’re leaving their comfort zone. To take advantage of the work you put in, rest is necessary. To heal. Your personal and professional development is the same exact way. 

Our championship lifestyle, that we hope to instill and live by every day, requires us to rest. Reflect. Recover. But the rest only works after the periods of action. So get active. Be active. STAY ACTIVE!

Thank you for following along all week as we dove deep inside the factors, both internal and external to ourselves, that can block us on our journey to becoming all that we can become and fulfilling all that we are destined to do.

“Life is struggle and struggle is life. Misery is optional.”

"What I believe, will be!

Peace."

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